All his life Lindsay had carried the scars of being physically and emotionally abused as a child by Bing -- who often beat him at Christmas.
Everyone revered Bing because of his famous song and movie White Christmas. So Lindsay once vowed to a friend that if he ever killed himself, he would do it at Christmas -- just to show the world what a rat his dad really was.
And on December 11 -- less than 24 hours after watching White Christmas on TV -- 51-year-old Lindsay blew his brains out.
Christmas had always been a bad time for Lindsay, but this year had been the worst of all. He'd been so severely depressed in recent weeks that he had to be hospitalized. Then he suffered serious financial setbacks -- and finally, a breakup with his girlfriend had left him shattered.
And always, hovering over his tragic life like a black cloud, were his dark depressing memories of Bing.
Said Lindsay's first cousin Carolyn Michels:
"Every time he heard the voice of his father Bing crooning White Christmas -- probably the most-heard carol on car radios and in shopping malls -- it was another reminder of what a failure his own life had turned out to be.
"His brother Dennis recently told me Lindsay felt everything he did, everything he touched, was doomed to fail -- and Lindsay dreaded the approach of Christmas with all its pain and sad memories. Lindsay felt his whole life was one big colossal waste. Being Bing's son ruined his life."
For Lindsay there were no White Christmases, only black ones -- and he'd even threatened to commit suicide during the holiday season, revealed Robert Slatzer, coauthor of the 1981 biography Bing Crosby -- The Hollow Man.
Slatzer told The ENQUIRER: "Lindsay told me a few years ago 'I hate Christmas because of Pop and I always will. It brings back the pain and fear I suffered as a child. And if I ever do myself in, it will be at Christmastime. That will show the world what I think of Bing Crosby's White Christmas.'"
Confided Slatzer, a Crosby family friend for many years:
"Lindsay hated his father with a passion. He could never forgive Bing for the way he'd been treated as a child -- especially at Christmastime. Instead of being a time of joy and love and peace, Bing had made Christmas a time of pain and suffering for Lindsay and his three brothers Gary, Dennis and Phillip. During the Christmas holidays Bing often took his boys to his ranch in Elko, Nevada, and worked the hell out of them. If they didn't do enough work, he would beat them. They lived in fear of these brutal beatings. These childhood experiences ruined the holiday season for Lindsay -- and scarred him for life."
Bing was cold, distant and imposed harsh rules on his sons -- and when they broke those rules, they were beaten until they bled, say insiders. He also constantly belittled the boys, calling them "stupid asses who won't amount to anything."
Lindsay was the most sensitive son ... and his dad's abuses and lack of affection hit him the hardest, coloring his entire life.
Said Slatzer: "Lindsay was never able to find happiness. He became a hard-drinking hell-raiser who went from woman to woman and couldn't find peace or success.
"Lindsay once told me: 'People think Bing Crosby personifies the Christmas spirit because he sings White Christmas. But he was a total phony. He was no Father Christmas -- he was a cold, cruel Ebenezer Scrooge. His meanness and cruelty has dominated my life. And when I hear my old man singing White Christmas on the radio, it makes my skin crawl. I have to run out of the room.'"
Incredibly, in recent years Lindsay -- who lived in Calabasas, California -- often "tortured himself around Christmastime by listening to his father's records," said a close friend -- who added: "He was in bad shape, getting more and more depressed."
This year, Lindsay reached his lowest point ever.
For years he'd been a manic-depressive who had to take drugs to keep from going over the edge. But by September he had grown so severely depressed he had to check into a psychiatric hospital for six weeks, said a close friend.
"Lindsay's behavior became more and more bizarre in the past year," the friend confided. "For example, he wouldn't buy anything at the grocery store unless he had a coupon for it -- yet he'd often buy a hamburger at a restaurant and leave the waitress a $100 tip."
Then came another blow: Lindsay -- a three-time loser in marriage -- broke up with his girlfriend, Pam Desnon, because she couldn't stand his bizarre mood swings. They managed a reconciliation, but the relationship remained very rocky.
Lindsay also was having worsening money problems -- adding to his depression, says a pal. Even his car recently was repossessed.
"Lindsay had severe money problems. The money from his trust fund was declining due to investments that were not doing well. And he had to split the trust fund income with an ex-wife. He told me, 'I'm a financial ruin.'"
On the night of December 10, Bing's movie White Christmas aired on TV.
"Lindsay told his girlfriend Pam he was going to watch it -- even though he said he hated it," said a close friend.
And less than 24 hours after watching the movie, Lindsay ended his life by putting a bullet through his brain. The pain had finally ended.